Growing Pains

GROWING PAINS

Growth should come with a warning label:

“🗣Caution, painful times ahead!”

Sounds like we should run for the hills huh lol, don’t leave just yet. Life is sometimes a roller coaster ride full of sharp turns, being in over your head and painful experiences. The saying is growth is not found in comfort and that’s the absolute truth. Growth can hurt and change is uncomfortable but if you can hold tight til the end, you’ll learn that the journey was necessary and you’ll appreciate all you’ve endured to get there.

Growing pains come in many forms. It’s a part of life that has to be accepted to live fully with the least amount of resistance. Instead of looking at it as a bad thing, learn to flip your perspective into how can this help me grow? What can I learn from this? This simple fix is the start to accepting what life throws your way and handling it in the best way possible.

Building and sticking to a new fitness and nutrition regimen is a growing pain when you aren’t used to working out and eating right. I began my fitness journey in December 2017 and the hardest thing for me was remaining consistent and pushing myself on the days I didn’t feel like sticking to the plan. Some weeks were better than others but I kept going. Here it is over a year later and I am still pushing to be the most fit I’ve ever been in my adult life. Backslides happen, things come up and sometimes there just isn’t enough time in the day. It is easier for me to jump back on track because I’ve stayed with it for so long. This is no longer a pain for me, but a necessary part of self love.

Outgrowing destructive behaviors and relationships are growing pains. Many people will give the excuse for bad behavior as “that’s just how I am”. WRONG, that’s how you CHOOSE to be. We are in complete control of ourselves at all times and certain behaviors or traits can be replaced with better ones, but this requires attentiveness and work. Too many people don’t want to put the work in and expect good results and life does not work this way. More people need to understand that internal work is just as important as any other achievement you seek, even more if I’m being honest. Even when it comes to relationships, many times we tend to get into them without fully knowing the person your opening your life up to. People will remain in bad relationships for the sake of comfort and I will be the first to tell you that I have been there. I was once that girl, but as a grown woman this is no longer acceptable. Every relationship isn’t meant to last a lifetime and discernment is so necessary to recognize when that season is up. Growing pains is sometimes leaving situations that no longer serve you. Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us things and that’s it! We aren’t meant to hold on to them, but yet we do for fear of be alone. Being single or alone is not a bad thing and I wish society would change that narrative. It is much better to work on self than to hop from one meaningless relationship to another. That fear of being alone has to be addressed and you can’t avoid it forever. How can you expect other people to enjoy your company when you don’t even enjoy your own?

Building and sticking to a budget is a growing pain for those who aren’t so accountable with finances or those looking to make a financial change in their life. Especially in today’s economy, financial responsibility is a must. Many of us are only a paycheck away from being homeless and while budgeting, meal prepping and couponing doesn’t seem like it will help or be much fun, they are tactics to help you become more wise with where your money goes. The money saved can go towards outstanding debt, savings or college plans for children, investments, ect. Operation financial freedom is the # 1 goal I have right now and it was a hard adjustment to make but that didn’t stop me because I know my end goals and this is a major catalyst to achieving them. You know your on the right track when you resist reckless spending and think more long term and not just for the moment.

These are just a few examples of how we experience growing pains. Change is inevitable and it is wise to alter the way we think about it. Change is always an opportunity for growth. What good is the knowledge we collect along our way if we don’t apply it and put it to use? Something to think about

Self Discovery🔸️What’s It All About?


Self Discovery is defined as the process of acquiring insight into one’s own character

One piece of advice that I wish I had very early on in life is that you have to gain a solid sense of self in this world before you do anything else. You have to connect within and know what drives and motivates you. Self discovery is the internal exploration about connecting with your higher self and finding yourself without the influence of family, friends, religion or society.

The purpose for self discovery is breaking down all things that are not of your true self and rebuilding into a stronger, more solid version of you. Our wisdom and knowledge is only useful when shared or applied so put your growth to use! Our existence in this world is much bigger than ourselves and we’re all apart of a bigger picture. The purpose is to find your place in this puzzle of life. Unhealed trauma and suppressed feelings have a tendency to show up in other areas of our life when they are left
unaddressed and this will snowball into more problems to fix down the line.

This journey is a difficult one and is often brushed off because a lot of people don’t like reliving painful experiences or revisiting their childhood traumas because it means realizing their behavior and beliefs are be based on it. Too many people go through life pretending about who they really are, wearing the mask of who they think they should be. How can you ever find your true purpose if you aren’t real about your gifts and what makes you unique in this world? This path isn’t an easy road, but its so rewarding and essential to heal for personal growth.

I know there are some who are wondering how exactly do you do this? There are many ways to approach self exploration but the key for me was writing down my strengths, weaknesses, the things I loved and disliked about myself, my motivations, what fueled my fire and what put me out. I made a list of these qualities and spent time with them one by one. I did it this way so that I had a complete inventory of what I needed to work on and where I was starting from. Some areas required more work than others.
I thought back to what formed some of my opinions and beliefs and that reflection led me see that many of my negative experiences shaped my behavior and how I approached relationships, friendships and my own relationship with myself.

There is no time table as everyone’s self discovery journey will be different. It usually isn’t until people have grown tired, frustrated, or spiritually drained that one will seek self exploration as a way to change and transform their life. Who are you? This question is the essence of self discovery. Finding who you are at the core without being defined by the roles that you fulfill. You may be a mother or father, employee or business owner, friend ect but that is not WHO you are. I always like to say that I am an old soul with magnetic energy and a heart full of gold. An intellectual mind curious of all of the worlds wonders. A Queen who’s turned her pain into her power. This is who I am

Travel Blog🔹️Las Vegas

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Viva Las Vegas was the destination for my 30th birthday this past March.

We stayed at the Tropicana Hotel, although I’m not sure I would stay there again (had no rooms available despite a reservation months in advance. The manager found us a room several hours later. Luckily we had friends who also had a room we could crash at in the meantime).

First place we hit was Mr. Mama’s for some food (awesome breakfast cafe!)

Once full and satisfied we set off for the liquor store and back to our hotel to change and freshen up. Our first real destination for the day was the opening day pool party at Liquid Pool Lounge, a club inside of the Aria Resort & Casino. The atmosphere was nice but the drinks were expensive and seating was reserved for vip only.  We still enjoyed ourselves and then left a few hours later to walk the strip and enjoy the atmosphere. We had plans to go out for dinner but the 6am flight caught up to us and sleep took over.

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Day 2 consisted of a little shopping on the strip

Lunch and drinks at the PBR Rock Bar

A pole dancing class at Pole Fitness Studios

My friend Kayla getting some ink at Last Chance Tattoo

Dinner at The Barrymore

Finally ending the night at Drai’s Nightclub for a Migos performance

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Day 3 and our final day in Vegas began with brunch at the Wynn Buffet (awesome food, plentiful variety and bottomless drinks!, 🍹)

A bit of random casino playing and checking out the Phantom 😎

That evening we started with a happy hour in the sky at the High Roller

And ended the evening with a bar crawl across Downtown Vegas.

We had just enough time to come back to the hotel, pack and head to the airport. Walking through TSA burping Yeager will stay with me forever lol. Welcome to 30

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A letter to my 20 year old self

As the end of 2018 gets closer, I took some time to reflect on my major milestone, the year of the big 3-0! Turning 30 made me think back on the decade I was now leaving behind and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. To say I had my share of challenges is an understatement!! But many would never know it. I am such a private person, so my battles were always silent. But these lessons are too valuable not to share. Thinking back on what I would tell my 20 year old self, I decided to write a letter.

You did not recognize your own strength and resiliency! Oh if only I knew then what I know now, things would of been so different. But our journey has no mistakes in the lessons meant for us. I would start off by telling you not to worry so much. Live your life for YOU and find all the things you love, no matter how strange or weird they may be. This is what separates you from others and makes you unique. Be decisive, assertive and stand firm in your boundaries. That man your stressing over will become a distant memory, save your energy. Never sacrifice your happiness for someone else. You deserve to be happy too. Put yourself first but be considerate always. Your peace and happiness is YOUR responsibility, do not take that lightly and protect it often.

Rejection or a direct NO can sting and cause pain when your heart is set on something but this can be a hidden blessing. Sometimes what you THINK you want is the worst for you in the long run. Learn to recognize this as a blessing in disguise! There is always something to be learned from every situation and person we encounter. Continue to be observant and pay attention.

This one here is crucial, DON’T BECOME WHO HURT YOU. Read that line as many times as you need to for it to sink in. Revenge feels nice (evilly satisfying if I’m being honest) but its best to feel it, own it, learn from it and let it go! Don’t avoid this part. Suppressed feelings have a way of manifesting in other areas of your life when ignored. Don’t be afraid to start over, change is good sometimes even when you don’t know the end result right away. As a perfectionist, Chill TF out sometimes and just ride the wave! Everything has a way of working out. Understand what you bring to the table and never be afraid to leave if your taken for granted or unappreciated. There are other tables out here, you can even go a step further and create your own. Never settle and don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to either. There is so much of the world you still haven’t seen, travel travel TRAVEL! Save your sick days for that lol

Focus on your goals and update them often. Let no one distract you from this. Those meant to be in your life will be there regardless, focus more on them than the people you have to fight to stay. If someone wants to leave, open the door for them, wish them well, then get back to your own life. Your friendship is not a revolving door, lock it once closed. There are still people who love and adore you! Silence really is golden and sometimes is the best answer. Easier said than done but can easily be achieved with practice and consistency.

Becoming a mother, a single mother at that is one of the hardest jobs you will ever have, but you’ve done a wonderful job despite everything stacked against you! Your determination is unmatched, you never let anything stop you to include graduating college MAGNA CUM LAUDE. Pat yourself on the back more often, you’ve earned it! Celebrate your own victories the same way you do others. Continue to lead your own path with your morals and principals guiding your way. It may not feel like it, but people do and will notice your authenticity and will love you for it, especially in a world programmed to follow the same trends. Those are the people you need to keep around. Don’t lose what makes you, YOU. Get out of that shell! There is so much more depth to you than people realize, show it off, let good people in and be proud! Own every bit of who you are and keep getting better. Self reflect often.. and make the necessary changes. Don’t make excuses for shitty behavior and decisions. You must take accountability for your yourself, and apologize when necessary. Check your ego, the world owes you nothing.

Last but most importantly, forgive often, but you are under no obligation to keep people in your life! It’s OK to forgive and still cut ties with people who have wronged you. The person who will need your forgiveness the most is YOURSELF… be generous and learn to forgive fully and honestly. It is a good thing to have high expectations of yourself and others but leave room for mistakes. Learning from them is how you will grow ❤

30 IS the new 20 ❤

What does it mean to self reflect?

The ability to stop and check yourself is one of the best qualities to have. None of us are perfect, we are all a constant work in progress.

Self reflection is holding a mirror up to your own flaws, bad habits and toxic behaviors. It about being able to recognize your own short comings and do something about it.

This is growth! This is how we expand and see things from different perspectives and gain a more opened minded view. Introspective maintenance should be practiced regularly to be your best.

It takes consistent practice to become more self aware of our flaws and extremely brave to face them! We all have the capability to realign ourselves at any moment.

Are there some flaws you know you need to work on? Others you aren’t so aware of? Comment below and let me know 💙

About me

20180624_003340.jpgHey there and thanks for checking me out! My name is Michelle but my friends call me MiMi. I’m a curious and proactive adventure-seeker who loves to investigate the world around me. I’ve always had a passion for travel and experiencing different cultures. Im always inspired by the positive influence my stories can have on readers and their perspective on life. I love engaging with the topics and people I write about, diving headfirst into the research, investigation, and production of blogs I feel are worth writing about. My love for writing began back in middle school in Bitburg, Germany. It was my way to express myself and gave me a unique creative outlet. My journey is not the ordinary and hasn’t been an easy one, but the jewels I’ve collected along the way has given me a sense of inspiration and wisdom that I shouldnt keep to myself. So this is my gift to whoever is open to receiving it ❤

What Is Abundance?

Depending on who you ask, you may get many different responses. By definition, abundance can be described as extremely plentiful, overflowing fullness or over-sufficient supply. Abundance is what we all aim for in life. To live comfortably, happy and full lives, manifesting our greatest dreams and desires to their fullest potential.

Living an abundant life for me would be one that is rich full of memories that will be with me forever, experiences that I will never forget, love that I’ll never be without, happiness that comes from inside and out, family to cherish, support and depend on, and the greatest treasures that life has to offer.

The key behind abundance is first knowing what you want, and believing you can obtain it. Often times we want many things, but our subconscious mind causes us to doubt that we will ever truly fulfill that want. Unknowingly, this creates a contradiction of energy. Tuning into abundance means that we first acknowledge and become thankful for the things we already have in our lives. Visualize what it is that you desire and sit with that feeling for a while. The energy and internal happiness created during that visualization is what will bring you abundance! When you raise your vibration, you become more aligned with the universe and the universe responds by making the things that you want easier to obtain. Make this a habit and watch your life transform!

Peace and Blessings,

Mimi

A brand dedicated to authenticity, self love, self discovery, healing, empowerment and travel