Love Languages

Good morning and happy hump day! We are half way through the week and almost into Pisces season, today is exactly one month away from my birthday! With Valentine’s day tomorrow, I figured what better time than now to talk about Love Languages. In the season of all things love, gifts and quality time, its good to recognize that we don’t necessarily receive love in the same way. The love languages concept is based on the book “The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman. The purpose is to discover how you best give and receive love and to build stronger relationships. The five languages include Acts of Service, Words of affirmation, Receiving gifts, Quality time, and Physical Touch.

The Love languages quiz is a necessary self love and discovery tool to learn your own love language as well as how to best love your husband or wife, children ect.. I always see a huge emphasis on this in regards to personal relationships, but not so much for parent/child relationships. Loving our kids or parents the way they need to be loved is just as important! To love someone isn’t to love them the way we THINK they should be loved. To love someone is to learn all about their individuality and love them in the language they receive it best to be their highest self. Often times, we can rely on our own thoughts and feelings in regards to how we show love and assume that’s how everyone is. How we show love is not always received in the way we intend and that’s why taking the time to learn this is important. To achieve this is to learn your partner’s method of love, study it and master it. I’ll get into which love language I scored highest in as well as the others in the order personal to me. I think I kind of relate to them all to some extent lol, depending on the circumstances. I’m always outside the box, but thats what makes me unique. The link for the quiz is below!

Quality time is the language I scored highest in. I value personal, one-on-one time with my loved one to build and maintain our bond. I feel most loved when someone spends time with me and gives me their undivided attention. Likewise I also express love in the same manner. Intimacy plays a big part here for me, I have particular interest in the man bold enough to really explore my mind and what makes me, me. I like to explore the mind and thoughts of the man I’m with. As a sapiosexual, I am someone who is attracted to the intelligence of a man. I like to dig deeper than surface level discussions about life and everything in-between and get to know the soul inside, not the ego portrayed. Energy is everything to me and will introduce you before you’ve had a chance to open your mouth. I want to sit in your presence and experience the unexplained… something like observing the way you may scan a room before speaking or the constant stares I catch from you out of the corner of my eyes before blushing, your demeanor and tone or that random scent of your cologne. Even down to how comfortable I feel around you and the vibe that I get from our conversations and eye contact. I am very observant, so quality time to gauge chemistry is necessary for me to get a true feel for who I’m with. Its so much to soak in that the digital experience cant match. Not to say phone calls and video chats mean nothing, they definitely are the next best thing as we all have lives to get to. Cancelled dates, distractions and failure to listen are especially hurtful when done repeatedly. As long as the time spent is fulfilling, the want for quality time doesn’t have to be over excessive.

The second love language is Words of Affirmation. This love language focuses on written and verbal expressions of love and affection. I love receiving and giving complements. This one goes hand in hand with intimacy so I have a special place in my heart for words of affirmation. I like hearing how someone may feel about me and random notes of appreciation. I find that this has the ability to change my mood and uplift my spirits and make me want to go harder for my loved ones. Those who identify with this as their primary love language need to hear the words to connect with how they feel about you. On the flip side, insults can have an especially damaging effect. Your partner is not likely to forget hurtful things you’ve said and this will cause issues and can lead to the demise of the relationship. Telling your partner you love and appreciate them can go a very long way.

There is nothing quite like a long, shared embrace with the one you love. The second and third language was almost equal to each other in importance for me. I love bear hugs, cuddling during rainstorms or movies, holding hands, play fighting and other physical displays of affection. For me to fully come out of shell physically, I need the mental and emotional connection made during quality time to be in sync first. Nothing anyone says can be more meaningful than someone reaching out and hugging or touching you. Touch is a nonverbal que to express I love you and I’m here for you without saying a word. Physical contact is the expression of love by giving and receiving pleasure and ensuring sure your partner is satisfied. As with all types, the characteristics to avoid include physical abuse, giving the cold shoulder and avoiding physical contact. These behaviors are destroyers for this love type. Anxiety can arise when one becomes starved for touch and can grow aggravated. Healthy and wanted touch is how those with this love language feels most connected, safe and secure.

Gift giving isn’t always as grand as we tend to think it is. Whether its being surprised with a nice perfume or your favorite candy bar from a store run, we all like knowing we’re thought about. I enjoy edible gifts, but I also value things I can hold on to. These kind of gifts serve as a reminder that I’m always loved and thought about whenever I see it and takes me right back to that moment in time. As much as I love receiving gifts, I also like to surprise my loved ones in the same manner. I love the look on my daughters face when I’ve brought home something she loves. It makes me happy to see her face light up, even with something as simple as a $2 bag of hot fries. Its not about being materialistic or obsessing about the cost behind it. Missed birthdays, anniversaries and thoughtless gifts can cause your partner to feel insignificant, forgotten and unloved. Even if its something as simple as a hand written card or picked flowers, it really is about the thought and intention behind the action.

Acts of service is valued as those who take the initiative to get things done. The key here is to humbly serve and physically help out wherever necessary. Whether that’s doing housework, preparing dinner or maintaining the cars, these are a few examples on how acts of service is shown for this love language. The concept behind this language is to show love by donating your time and effort to easing the burden of responsibility. This language is looking for the action from your words and expect you to mean what you say and say what you mean. Broken commitments, not being dependable and laziness are turn offs and should be avoided. People with this primary love language will feel unloved and unappreciated when their loved ones don’t show a desire to help them keep things in order. Having your partner choose to put their time and energy towards you will make you light up with love and appreciation.

These are all very different expressions of love. Its makes you aware of what your partners needs and triggers are. It can be easy to assume someone doesn’t love you but it could very well be a case of not recognizing and understanding when love is being shown if their language differs from yours. This concept has also helped me to strengthen and better understand my relationships with my family and friends. When building a relationship, I aim for a genuine connection with longevity and this tool is helpful in creating stronger, lasting bonds. Here is the link for the quiz, take it and let me know your results and comments below!

This is the official link, which makes you create a profile https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

Here is another test to take without having to do all that jazz https://365tests.com/personality-tests/what-is-your-love-language/

Brunch Chronicles~ Bay Local Eatery 📍VA Beach, VA

Good morning and Happy Sunday! Authentically_mi the blog has been up for a month and a half and it been great so far. This post is going to be a bit different from my content so far. I wanted to branch more into what else the Authentically_mi brand has to offer. Eat Read Sip is a book club and review platform that includes the self title online/local club, book reviews, and Authentic Eats. Brunch Chronicles is a series of Authentic Eats featuring various brunch reviews, local and afar. Check out that section for more details! I decided to start this series off with a fairly recent visit to Bay Local Eatery, a gem located in Virginia Beach, VA.

917 Shore Dr
http://www.baylocalvb.com

My first impression was how busy this place was and the fact that parking was hard to find. They have a huge parking lot across the street, but towing is enforced for the restaurant over there so I highly advise to try and find street parking. Nothing is worse than thinking you’ll get away with it and coming out to no vehicle in sight and a hefty fine to get your car back. After a 15 minute roundabout, I was lucky to see someone pulling out.

Once inside, the waitress told us there was a 45 minute wait, which was long but we decided to stick it out. Luckily for us they had seating right by the door along with a few drink menus. We were able to go up to the bar and grab a drink prior to our table being ready so the time flew by. I was surprised to see that their brunch menu is served all day instead of the usual 10 am to 2 pm.

My friend and I both got the regular pomegranate sorbet mimosas and they were delicious!  The sorbet covered in champagne was a great combination. The drink became sweeter the longer it sat, plus it remained cold. Once we were finally seated, I decided to try the mango sorbet mimosa and the flavor was ok but taste wasn’t as noticeable and sweet like the pomegranate. Between the two I definitely prefer the first one!  I glanced over the menu and the food options were plentiful!

Part of me wanted the jamaican dark rum french toast, the light tower omelet, Da club sandwich and the hangover just to get the beer in the bag lol. I had every intention on getting the omelet but at the last minute I switched to Da club this time with a jumbo pomegranate raspberry mimosa (this mix is really good 😋). They allow you to mix flavors for an additional dollar, but you have to get the jumbo size.

This sandwich was massive 😳. I had to bite at the corners to avoid looking too greedy lol. It was much bigger than I was expecting but it was very tasty and filling! They did not skimp on the meat, which is covered by this huge slice of cheese. I wish I had taken a better picture of the inside. The fries were well seasoned and crispy but too not hard. I always try to portion control my meals so that I can still enjoy the foods I want but in moderation. The weekend are my cheat days so I try to make them worth it. This brunch more than doubled as lunch the next day….. I wish the drinks were to go too lol.

All in all this was a great brunch experience with good food, awesome drinks and a nice, relaxing atmosphere. What are some of your favorite brunch spots? Make sure to check them out if you are in the area and subscribe to stay with to date with my latest brunch chronicles adventure!

~With Love,
Mimi

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MORE ABOUT OUTSPOKENLY OPINIONATED

 This segment of Mimi’s Mic will focus on poetry, experiences, observations and more.  I wrote my first poetry piece in the 6th grade.  It was something I randomly stumbled upon while always listening to music and writing my own lyrics.  I’m not much of a singer though, so those words never left the paper.  They did seem to get better with time, it became an outlet for my feelings and experiences.  So much so that written expression is easier for me to express. 

These post may not be for the faint of heart, so they will clearly be marked with {MM} to keep these posts separate from the Authentically_mi blog.  They are related, yes but distant cousins.  That outspoken opinionated fish on the bottom and the empowered uplifting fish on top.  Both of the fish making up my sun sign of Pisces!

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You Can’t Pour From An Empty Cup

Today is the last day of January and I cant believe how fast the month went! I know I said this weeks post would be about love languages, but with Valentines day around the corner, I figured that would be more fitting for the occasion. Learn to expect the unexpected from me, things can change fast but all for the better good!

Abundance is when our cups run over, but what happens when your cup is empty? A burn out is most likely on the horizon. Achieving balance here can be tricky sometimes but ensuring your cup never gets too low is crucial for healing and maintaining self care. Its too easy to pour all of yourself into your loved ones and don’t get me wrong your heart is certainly in the right place, but realistically no one can sustain like that forever. To be a giving person is a blessing, but over exerting yourself will leave nothing else inside for you. The cup is supposed to represent you. When its empty, you cant give the things you need to give to your kids, family or community. Our cups become empty when there is nothing being poured back into us or we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to practice real self care. You cant have the drive and passion for everything else in your life and neglect to pour that magic back into yourself. YOU are the most important project you will ever work on. When you are operating are optimum levels, you are better able to give and serve those around you without becoming depleted yourself. Learn to work smarter not harder.

This is a good example outside of financial reasons of why we need equally yoked relationships. You cannot be the only one pouring from your cup, depleting yourself while that love isn’t reciprocated. We should surround ourselves with people who also help us, look out for and pour back into us. This is not just limited to romantic relationships either, this also applies for friendships, business relationships and such. We also have to make sure that we are open to receiving help, we cant be too busy and ignore or neglect the people who want to assist us. Even if it isn’t intentional, just be mindful of it. Accept help when it is offered and know that you don’t have to carry the burden of the world alone. This is something I’m actively working on.

Its ok to take breaks, or have alone time. Many times we feel guilty for not giving ourselves a break when there are more important things that require our attention, but this train of thought has to end. I am a much better parent if I’ve given myself time to collect my thoughts and improve my mood from a long day at work. Its easy to get annoyed at little things when we are already stressed from the day and we do not want to take it out on those closest to us. That’s exactly what we are trying to avoid and replace with better practices. We are human though, sometimes we may slip and have a moment but remember to forgive yourself and keep trying. We should be mindful to what our limits and triggers are and how long it takes us to reach them. Empty cups are detrimental to everyone around us and takes much longer to fix than catching it before it gets that bad. Its having practices in place to prevent problems before they arise.

To combat having an empty cup, self care practices can be ideal. You can develop a self care plan or list that has things to do that bring you peace when needed. It really is up to you and what you like but my list includes:

  • bubble baths
  • journaling
  • meditation
  • going to the gym
  • retail therapy
  • 30 minutes of decompress time after work before jumping into mom mode
  • scheduling weekly date nights, happy hours or brunch dates with friends
  • chocolate and wine of course lol.
  • Pictured below another list of ideas that cost you absolutely nothing so no excuse!

For those unable to squeeze in time after work, there are the night owl hours after everyone has gone to bed for the night, or the early bird rising before everyone else to enjoy the sunrise and a cup of coffee in silence. There are plenty of ways to achieve the time, its taking the steps to actually do it and not giving into excuses. Prioritize yourself into those busy to do lists and make sure your cup is taken care of

DIY Project🔅2019 Vision Board

VISION BOARDS

We are almost one month into the new year and what better time than now to create a vision board for the year. Its important to be proactive in creating your own vision for your life, as our thoughts are powerful and reflects the world as we know it.

So What Exactly Is A Vision Board and Why Do You Need One?

The purpose of a vision board is to make a collage of images, pictures, affirmations, goals, and dreams to serve as a source of inspiration and can magnify the law of attraction method to attain goals. The idea is to create the feelings and gratitude BEFORE it comes. By creating a visual representation, you stimulate and strengthen your emotions and emotions are the vibrational energy that activates Law of Attraction. This is how you make your dreams a reality. Last year was the first time I ever made a vision board and I kept it up for a few months before it somehow ended up in the back of my closet. Some things did come to fruition as I also did the work to achieve them, but my mission could of been accomplished much faster having that daily reminder to look at. I suggest a vision board to anyone who wants to plan and structure their lives around their goals and NOT their circumstances. This is the key difference between a life you chose and a life you just accepted. We are picking and choosing in 2019!

The law of attraction is defined as the attractive, magnetic power of the universe that draws similar energies together

So How Do We Get Started?

You cannot make a vision board without first having a vision for your life. Do you know your goals and the things you want out of life? Do you have a dream job or business? Or dream home? Try to be as specific as possible. Once you know what’s important to you, then you’ll need to decide on the categories you want to feature. The primary categories I went with were finances (operation financial freedom!), Love and Relationships, career and business plans, My blog and book club, holistic health and spiritual growth as well as family. Next I plug every item on my list into one of these categories so that I know how to structure the best layout. Categories with more items will need more space so be mindful of that. After you’ve made your plan, we need to find our content. I started with magazines but they only gave me some good quotes and words to live by. They didn’t offer much as far as pictures are concerned. So for that, I had to swing over to google to find the best images and print them off.

While looking for pictures, I tried to pick the ones I absolutely loved and was sure to include extra to give myself options during the final layout. Once I had all my pictures printed and cut to size, I got my poster board and laid out all of my pictures until I had the final format I was looking for. Gluing everything down was the last step.

Your vision board should be fabulously full and complete! Keep in mind that this vision board acts as a visualization tool, but it doesn’t absolve you from doing the actual work. You should still put forth the effort needed to execute your plan. Remember we are working on cultivating the feeling of already having what we want and our board is the reinforcement of that idea.
The key to this is making sure you keep your vision board in area that it will be visible daily. Look at it and change it as often as you need to and watch the magic happen! Thanks for tuning in!

A sneak peek of my vision board

Growing Pains

GROWING PAINS

Growth should come with a warning label:

“🗣Caution, painful times ahead!”

Sounds like we should run for the hills huh lol, don’t leave just yet. Life is sometimes a roller coaster ride full of sharp turns, being in over your head and painful experiences. The saying is growth is not found in comfort and that’s the absolute truth. Growth can hurt and change is uncomfortable but if you can hold tight til the end, you’ll learn that the journey was necessary and you’ll appreciate all you’ve endured to get there.

Growing pains come in many forms. It’s a part of life that has to be accepted to live fully with the least amount of resistance. Instead of looking at it as a bad thing, learn to flip your perspective into how can this help me grow? What can I learn from this? This simple fix is the start to accepting what life throws your way and handling it in the best way possible.

Building and sticking to a new fitness and nutrition regimen is a growing pain when you aren’t used to working out and eating right. I began my fitness journey in December 2017 and the hardest thing for me was remaining consistent and pushing myself on the days I didn’t feel like sticking to the plan. Some weeks were better than others but I kept going. Here it is over a year later and I am still pushing to be the most fit I’ve ever been in my adult life. Backslides happen, things come up and sometimes there just isn’t enough time in the day. It is easier for me to jump back on track because I’ve stayed with it for so long. This is no longer a pain for me, but a necessary part of self love.

Outgrowing destructive behaviors and relationships are growing pains. Many people will give the excuse for bad behavior as “that’s just how I am”. WRONG, that’s how you CHOOSE to be. We are in complete control of ourselves at all times and certain behaviors or traits can be replaced with better ones, but this requires attentiveness and work. Too many people don’t want to put the work in and expect good results and life does not work this way. More people need to understand that internal work is just as important as any other achievement you seek, even more if I’m being honest. Even when it comes to relationships, many times we tend to get into them without fully knowing the person your opening your life up to. People will remain in bad relationships for the sake of comfort and I will be the first to tell you that I have been there. I was once that girl, but as a grown woman this is no longer acceptable. Every relationship isn’t meant to last a lifetime and discernment is so necessary to recognize when that season is up. Growing pains is sometimes leaving situations that no longer serve you. Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us things and that’s it! We aren’t meant to hold on to them, but yet we do for fear of be alone. Being single or alone is not a bad thing and I wish society would change that narrative. It is much better to work on self than to hop from one meaningless relationship to another. That fear of being alone has to be addressed and you can’t avoid it forever. How can you expect other people to enjoy your company when you don’t even enjoy your own?

Building and sticking to a budget is a growing pain for those who aren’t so accountable with finances or those looking to make a financial change in their life. Especially in today’s economy, financial responsibility is a must. Many of us are only a paycheck away from being homeless and while budgeting, meal prepping and couponing doesn’t seem like it will help or be much fun, they are tactics to help you become more wise with where your money goes. The money saved can go towards outstanding debt, savings or college plans for children, investments, ect. Operation financial freedom is the # 1 goal I have right now and it was a hard adjustment to make but that didn’t stop me because I know my end goals and this is a major catalyst to achieving them. You know your on the right track when you resist reckless spending and think more long term and not just for the moment.

These are just a few examples of how we experience growing pains. Change is inevitable and it is wise to alter the way we think about it. Change is always an opportunity for growth. What good is the knowledge we collect along our way if we don’t apply it and put it to use? Something to think about

Self Discovery🔸️What’s It All About?


Self Discovery is defined as the process of acquiring insight into one’s own character

One piece of advice that I wish I had very early on in life is that you have to gain a solid sense of self in this world before you do anything else. You have to connect within and know what drives and motivates you. Self discovery is the internal exploration about connecting with your higher self and finding yourself without the influence of family, friends, religion or society.

The purpose for self discovery is breaking down all things that are not of your true self and rebuilding into a stronger, more solid version of you. Our wisdom and knowledge is only useful when shared or applied so put your growth to use! Our existence in this world is much bigger than ourselves and we’re all apart of a bigger picture. The purpose is to find your place in this puzzle of life. Unhealed trauma and suppressed feelings have a tendency to show up in other areas of our life when they are left
unaddressed and this will snowball into more problems to fix down the line.

This journey is a difficult one and is often brushed off because a lot of people don’t like reliving painful experiences or revisiting their childhood traumas because it means realizing their behavior and beliefs are be based on it. Too many people go through life pretending about who they really are, wearing the mask of who they think they should be. How can you ever find your true purpose if you aren’t real about your gifts and what makes you unique in this world? This path isn’t an easy road, but its so rewarding and essential to heal for personal growth.

I know there are some who are wondering how exactly do you do this? There are many ways to approach self exploration but the key for me was writing down my strengths, weaknesses, the things I loved and disliked about myself, my motivations, what fueled my fire and what put me out. I made a list of these qualities and spent time with them one by one. I did it this way so that I had a complete inventory of what I needed to work on and where I was starting from. Some areas required more work than others.
I thought back to what formed some of my opinions and beliefs and that reflection led me see that many of my negative experiences shaped my behavior and how I approached relationships, friendships and my own relationship with myself.

There is no time table as everyone’s self discovery journey will be different. It usually isn’t until people have grown tired, frustrated, or spiritually drained that one will seek self exploration as a way to change and transform their life. Who are you? This question is the essence of self discovery. Finding who you are at the core without being defined by the roles that you fulfill. You may be a mother or father, employee or business owner, friend ect but that is not WHO you are. I always like to say that I am an old soul with magnetic energy and a heart full of gold. An intellectual mind curious of all of the worlds wonders. A Queen who’s turned her pain into her power. This is who I am

Travel Blog🔹️Las Vegas

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Viva Las Vegas was the destination for my 30th birthday this past March.

We stayed at the Tropicana Hotel, although I’m not sure I would stay there again (had no rooms available despite a reservation months in advance. The manager found us a room several hours later. Luckily we had friends who also had a room we could crash at in the meantime).

First place we hit was Mr. Mama’s for some food (awesome breakfast cafe!)

Once full and satisfied we set off for the liquor store and back to our hotel to change and freshen up. Our first real destination for the day was the opening day pool party at Liquid Pool Lounge, a club inside of the Aria Resort & Casino. The atmosphere was nice but the drinks were expensive and seating was reserved for vip only.  We still enjoyed ourselves and then left a few hours later to walk the strip and enjoy the atmosphere. We had plans to go out for dinner but the 6am flight caught up to us and sleep took over.

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Day 2 consisted of a little shopping on the strip

Lunch and drinks at the PBR Rock Bar

A pole dancing class at Pole Fitness Studios

My friend Kayla getting some ink at Last Chance Tattoo

Dinner at The Barrymore

Finally ending the night at Drai’s Nightclub for a Migos performance

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Day 3 and our final day in Vegas began with brunch at the Wynn Buffet (awesome food, plentiful variety and bottomless drinks!, 🍹)

A bit of random casino playing and checking out the Phantom 😎

That evening we started with a happy hour in the sky at the High Roller

And ended the evening with a bar crawl across Downtown Vegas.

We had just enough time to come back to the hotel, pack and head to the airport. Walking through TSA burping Yeager will stay with me forever lol. Welcome to 30

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A letter to my 20 year old self

As the end of 2018 gets closer, I took some time to reflect on my major milestone, the year of the big 3-0! Turning 30 made me think back on the decade I was now leaving behind and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. To say I had my share of challenges is an understatement!! But many would never know it. I am such a private person, so my battles were always silent. But these lessons are too valuable not to share. Thinking back on what I would tell my 20 year old self, I decided to write a letter.

You did not recognize your own strength and resiliency! Oh if only I knew then what I know now, things would of been so different. But our journey has no mistakes in the lessons meant for us. I would start off by telling you not to worry so much. Live your life for YOU and find all the things you love, no matter how strange or weird they may be. This is what separates you from others and makes you unique. Be decisive, assertive and stand firm in your boundaries. That man your stressing over will become a distant memory, save your energy. Never sacrifice your happiness for someone else. You deserve to be happy too. Put yourself first but be considerate always. Your peace and happiness is YOUR responsibility, do not take that lightly and protect it often.

Rejection or a direct NO can sting and cause pain when your heart is set on something but this can be a hidden blessing. Sometimes what you THINK you want is the worst for you in the long run. Learn to recognize this as a blessing in disguise! There is always something to be learned from every situation and person we encounter. Continue to be observant and pay attention.

This one here is crucial, DON’T BECOME WHO HURT YOU. Read that line as many times as you need to for it to sink in. Revenge feels nice (evilly satisfying if I’m being honest) but its best to feel it, own it, learn from it and let it go! Don’t avoid this part. Suppressed feelings have a way of manifesting in other areas of your life when ignored. Don’t be afraid to start over, change is good sometimes even when you don’t know the end result right away. As a perfectionist, Chill TF out sometimes and just ride the wave! Everything has a way of working out. Understand what you bring to the table and never be afraid to leave if your taken for granted or unappreciated. There are other tables out here, you can even go a step further and create your own. Never settle and don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to either. There is so much of the world you still haven’t seen, travel travel TRAVEL! Save your sick days for that lol

Focus on your goals and update them often. Let no one distract you from this. Those meant to be in your life will be there regardless, focus more on them than the people you have to fight to stay. If someone wants to leave, open the door for them, wish them well, then get back to your own life. Your friendship is not a revolving door, lock it once closed. There are still people who love and adore you! Silence really is golden and sometimes is the best answer. Easier said than done but can easily be achieved with practice and consistency.

Becoming a mother, a single mother at that is one of the hardest jobs you will ever have, but you’ve done a wonderful job despite everything stacked against you! Your determination is unmatched, you never let anything stop you to include graduating college MAGNA CUM LAUDE. Pat yourself on the back more often, you’ve earned it! Celebrate your own victories the same way you do others. Continue to lead your own path with your morals and principals guiding your way. It may not feel like it, but people do and will notice your authenticity and will love you for it, especially in a world programmed to follow the same trends. Those are the people you need to keep around. Don’t lose what makes you, YOU. Get out of that shell! There is so much more depth to you than people realize, show it off, let good people in and be proud! Own every bit of who you are and keep getting better. Self reflect often.. and make the necessary changes. Don’t make excuses for shitty behavior and decisions. You must take accountability for your yourself, and apologize when necessary. Check your ego, the world owes you nothing.

Last but most importantly, forgive often, but you are under no obligation to keep people in your life! It’s OK to forgive and still cut ties with people who have wronged you. The person who will need your forgiveness the most is YOURSELF… be generous and learn to forgive fully and honestly. It is a good thing to have high expectations of yourself and others but leave room for mistakes. Learning from them is how you will grow ❤

30 IS the new 20 ❤

What does it mean to self reflect?

The ability to stop and check yourself is one of the best qualities to have. None of us are perfect, we are all a constant work in progress.

Self reflection is holding a mirror up to your own flaws, bad habits and toxic behaviors. It about being able to recognize your own short comings and do something about it.

This is growth! This is how we expand and see things from different perspectives and gain a more opened minded view. Introspective maintenance should be practiced regularly to be your best.

It takes consistent practice to become more self aware of our flaws and extremely brave to face them! We all have the capability to realign ourselves at any moment.

Are there some flaws you know you need to work on? Others you aren’t so aware of? Comment below and let me know 💙

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